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We Were On A Break

Remember when Ross and Rachel were “on a break?” If you do not, I am firstly really surprised because almost EVERYBODY alive at the time was watching “Friends” when it originally aired. Those that were born after are watching it or binging it now. I am also really sad...

Keep it Simple Silly/Sugar/Sunshine

I got a text from a friend of mine the other day. It said, “I am so happy!” Technically, there was another word between “so” and “happy” which maybe would not be appropriate for a public/professional blog. We will just say that she wanted me to know that she was...

Sometimes, Perspective Is Everything

Happy New Year!  I know! I know! We are pushing February.  The year is not so new anymore. Looking back those three weeks or so, was anybody else as surprised as I was that so many people were sooooo ready to be done with 2019?  Personally, I do not remember the year,...

What’s In A Name?

The alarm goes off and you hit the snooze.  That repeats every 10 minutes or so until you get sick of it and turn the alarm off all the way, only to roll over yet again. It is not that you did not get enough sleep.  It is not even really because you are tired. It is...

Pride

Meet Jeffrey. Jeffrey is a 25-year-old white male. He just finished a master’s degree in the social service industry and landed a job a couple levels above entry level in is chosen career. Jeffrey is the youngest of three but is the first of the three to go to...

Small Things Often

A common struggle for many couples is the art of communication. How can it be improved? Why are the same fights happening over and over again? How can a couple have a happy relationship with healthy communication? According to the experts John and Julie Gottman, the...